Wednesday, January 18, 2012

5 pathetic precious minutes

‘ 5 pathetic precious minutes ‘                                  

Dear Puan Hasina from Wad Kesayangan Haiwan UPM,

You’ve probably heard that my dog Buffy from wad no. 27 passed away yesterday (17th January).

She came out of her surgery yesterday and I was given verbal permission by Dr Gayathri that I could see her after 6pm. I called you at 5.15pm from the UPM parking lot expressing my desire to see her. Instead you turned me away brashly, saying, “It’s after visiting hours and we all are going home”

I highlighted to you that I’m here because I was informed by Dr Gayathri that I could see my dog since she gave me the instruction. You retorted rudely, “she’s in training for 3 weeks and she’s not here now and didn’t give me any notice”

At this point, I was already disappointed at the inconsiderate rudeness and the lack of professional etiquette to solve this discrepancy internally. It shouldn’t be an outsider’s responsibility to ensure the needed paperwork/permission is granted to the right parties. All we want is to see our beloved four-legged friend after an intensive surgery.

Mind you, my dog just came out of a major surgery, she is a heart patient and has a tumour and had to be amputated. The very fact that she made it out of a 4 hour surgery was already a miracle and all I wanted was to give her strength and encouragement.

Luckily, I also remembered another doctor’s name – Dr Siti. I mentioned her name as well, then you negotiated with her and eventually granted me a ‘pathetic 5 minute’ visiting time.

I wasn’t entirely pleased but I took whatever I got just to see her face.  When I got in, I saw how rudely you spoke to your fellow colleagues and Dr Gayathri (who showed up coincidentally to visit her cases). I was shocked to see how you screamed saying, ‘I nak balik dah ni’, and ‘no visitor after 6pm

As an outsider I was appalled to see this unwillingness and rudeness not just to me but also to the internal staff. You were rude in your demeanor and I got to see your lack of professionalism and was surprised you’re still at your job. The way you acted doesn’t do justice to UPM and the hard work the vets put in. I’ve been so pleased with the professional conduct of all the vets who’ve I’ve encountered so far. And one bad apple shouldn’t ruin the whole bunch.

My dog Buffy, passed on few minutes after I left. My heart sank.

Imagine if you didn’t grant me that time at all? I wouldn’t have gotten the chance to see my dog alive for the last time.

That 5 minute gave me the chance to remember her trying to get up to greet me. Soon after I left, she had breathing problems and passed on.

I hope the next time you turn away dog owners who desperately want to see their dog after a major surgery, you will think of how that ‘5 minutes’ you granted me helped me record a lasting image of my dog alive.

I’m glad I got my last 5 minutes; though short it gave me a strong mental picture of my beautiful dog.

I wonder how many desperate dog owners didn’t get that chance because you had to leave at sharp 6. You’re working in a department that heals animals and that requires compassion and gentleness.

I know there are rules, but there’s also such a thing called compassion and that’s when you use your heart to make the discretion. Good examples of some vets who go beyond their line of work are Dr Sylvia and Dr Gaya who’ve not only shown me dedication and professionalism but also a lot of heart.

Thank you for granting me that ‘5 minutes’

Note:

The visiting hours in UPM are currently from 11am – 12noon and 2.30pm – 3.30pm (Mon – Thursday), on Fridays 11am – 12pm, on weekends it’s based on appointments with your vet.  If you get permission from the vet in-charge you can visit them after visiting hours.  Ensure you check the timing as they do get revised.

So, don’t give up if you encounter a rude staff, know your rights!

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In loving memory, Buffy the boxer.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Showered with love

My days are never ordinary.
Particulary when working from home
A day of stress diffused by their constant roam
They'll find me and stay close
The warmth fills me like flower bloom
I get my work done surrounded with so much love.

Buffy and Hera, my heroines.

Sunday, September 25, 2011

In your memory Mercury...

Your presence still burns like a candle
Not a day passes by without you
Memories of you plays instantly
When I head out, when I come back
Always a moment gazing your burial home
Tears streams down naturally
Always loving you


Thursday, September 1, 2011

A dog can teach you a thing or two about life

Buffy is my female boxer.        

As a puppy she didn't look or show much toughness in her character, except for her great appetite for food and keenness in taking showers. She'd run away at the sight of cats and didn't know how to throw a mean bark.
Buffy is now 8 years old and she's grown into a beautiful strong dog. I think it's from the many challenges life throws at her.
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She's been through numerous life threatening experiences. One of it was the constant fight for her space around Mercury. Mercury was my 6 year old ferocious Great Dane mix Napolean Mastiff.  Mercury and Buffy has had numerous ugly bloody fights. In almost all of them, we had to pull them apart or one of them would have gotten killed.  I've read, breaking up a fight between 2 dogs is a dangerous and risky affair and I must say, I agree with that entirely.
Somehow, miraculously I've/we've always managed to pull them apart and Buffy is always the one with major damage. She's gotten her ear torn, deep bloody bites on her neck and chest.  These fights kept repeating numerous times, and during those fights, I've wondered if this will be Buffy's last fight.
The more they fight, the more determined Buffy stands her ground. No matter how many times Mercury buries her teeth in Buffy's neck; she'd heal and move on.
Sometimes, I could see the fear in her eyes when Mercury is around. Despite the fear, Buffy would gather her courage and walk pass Mercury if needed.
That's Buffy for you. Stubborn like a bull.
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Buffy keeping her distance from Mercury (black-grey coat)
About a year ago, Buffy was diagnosed with pyometra.
 {Pyometra is a serious infection of the womb. It generally affects older dogs, soon after they are in season (estrus/heat). It is most commonly treated by surgery, and if not treated, it is often fatal.
The signs of pyometra are often not specific, and your dog may just appear to be 'under the weather'.  The most obvious symptom of open pyometra is a discharge of pus from the vulva in a Female that has recently been in heat. However, symptoms of closed pyometra are less obvious. Symptoms of both types include vomiting, loss of appetite, depression, and increased drinking and urinating. So, it is important to be aware of this condition and its potential severity. }


We found out what she was having and admitted her into an emergency vet the very same night. After ultrasound and blood test, the vet told us it was serious. Her uterus had enlarged and if she doesn't operate immediately she might not make it.

The surgery was too expensive so I tried to take her to another vet the next day, hoping it would be cheaper. Buffy was advised not to move too much because it could cause the uterus to burst and that would be fatal.

Eventually, after travelling up and down, we decided to go ahead with the surgery at the first vet we admitted her in; Segar Pets Centre & Veterinary Services 2 Jalan Manis 3, Taman Segar, Cheras, 56100 Kuala Lumpur.  Tel: 03-9133 4192.

Reason being, the vet I was hoping for couldn't act fast enough and seemed less concerned. I didn't want to take any further risks.

The operation was successful but the vet, Dr Ben told us, 'it's up to her now'

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When they carried Buffy into the kennel, I was extremely sad to see her looking lifeless. It was tough for me to leave her there. I came in every morning to see her. She hadn't eaten and didn't look good. I was getting more worried. Every day, I'd go in and hope she'd improve. I'd force-feed her by wiping some soft food on her muzzle, she'd have no choice but to lick it off out of irritation, and that's how she'd eat for days.

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Dr Ben, checking on Buffy's progress.

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Dr Ben removing Buffy's stitches        

On some days, I'd bump into different doctors who're on duty, and the not-so- positive ones would say, "She doesn't look good". I'd immediately blacklist that veterinarian out of my sight and only speak to Dr Ben, the vet who operated on her. He was more optimistic and certainly way more caring than the rest.

I think by day 4 she was looking stronger. I'd take her on short walks outside the vet and go back to see her in the evening before they close. I was beginning to smile and feeling more positive that she's going to be alright. Every day I'd look her in the eye and tell her, "you're a fighter Buffy, you'll come out of this"

It felt like we were both lending each other strength. I'd go home with an image of Buffy's eyes staring into mine.

I brought Buffy home on day xx.

That's Buffy for you. A fighter.

6 months ago, Buffy had a growth on her elbow, we learnt it was hygroma, so we provided lots of cushioning in her resting areas and put her on glucosamine. That really helped reduce the swelling. Not long after that, she was suddenly limping. We found out she has osteomyelitis. One some days, she'd only use 3 of her paws but still facing the world full of zest. She was on antibiotics for 2 months. I didn't want to put her on antibiotics anymore and have started on supplements.

She's showing signs of improvement and is walking as normal again.

Recently, Buffy was diagnosed of heart failure.
{In boxers, rhythm irregularities may be present before x-rays show abnormal findings. The lungs of dogs in heart failure are abnormally dense due to fluid build up within them. Unfortunately, pets with this problem do not live long. Medication can prolong the lives of some pets for a while, but most pass on within the year. Big breeds with the severer form may only live a few weeks from the time you notice the problem. A few live as long as two years.}
We're not sure how long she'll live but she's showing no signs of dullness. She's as hyper as she can be. Of course, she toned down a bit but the magical look in her eyes shows me how happy she is.

These days, I minimise her activities and keep her indoors close to me. She enjoys watching and following me around. I talk to her as she watches me and constantly thank her for her presence in my life.
She's now on heart medication for as long as she lives.

I've learnt so much from her.  You can't teach an old dog new trick, but you can learn a thing or two about life from an old dog.
Put a human being in the same position, you'd probably sense sadness in his/her life. Dogs are not attached to material/physical things; probably that's why they don't dwell on their physical inabilities like humans might. They just trudge on.
Now, that's something I learnt from Buffy. As long as you're able, cut your losses and move on.
 Until today, she still performs her duty as a guard dog and watches over me, as protective and loving as ever.
Her illness only slowed down her physical activities but not her zeal.

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Life can throw the largest curve ball at Buffy but she'll somehow hit it back!
That's my Buffy.
She's a fighter through and through.

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Silent Love

She doesn’t need to do much...
Her calm exterior soothes me
Her radiant eyes cheers me



She doesn’t need to say much....
She walks me up to my room and tucks me to bed
She places her head on my lap for attention      
 

         
                                                                                     
She doesn’t need to show much...
Her warm hugs pacifies me
Her playfulness showers me




She doesn’t ask much...

My touch is enough

My hugs are more than sufficient


 






Thank you darling Hera.
You bless me with your presence daily...

Buffy, daily.

Daily, you are next to me when I work
Always, wanting to inch closer to my feet if I jerk
Listening to my heartbeat as I breathe
Rain, storm or thunder you’re there to relieve.
My Buffy. My Love. Always.